I have three intertwining thoughts batting around my head this evening that I’m trying to sort out; we’ll see how it goes. (long post ahead)
The first comes out of tonight’s bedtime reading of Astrid Lindgren’s Mirabelle. It’s a somewhat bizarre story – a little girl is given a magic seed, the seed rewards her assiduous over-watering by growing into a doll, the doll comes alive (for her) and becomes her beloved companion and daughter-surrogate – but nothing out of the realm of the norm for twentieth-century picture books vaguely inspired by folk and fairy tales. The thing that I find the most interesting about it is the narrative voice: it’s narrated by the little girl herself to an audience she addresses very specifically; and she’s quite concrete about timing (she’s 8 now but got the doll seed when she was 6) and a final invitation to come and visit to meet the doll (I’m paraphrasing, but it’s basically, “Follow the narrow lane that leads to our house, and you’ll find me and Mirabelle at the gate, waiting!”).
We got the book about a year ago when a local kids’ library was having a book sale. It was in heavy rotation for several months, but hasn’t been a favorite recently. When she pulled it out this evening, Squiss announced, looking vaguely amused at herself: “This is a silly book!” When we read the final page, she shrugged philosophically and remarked, “But we can’t go visit because [insert shrug here] we’re not in the book!”
She’s figuring something out about fantasy and reality, as well as fantasy and realism as literary genres, and I’m finding it fascinating to watch it all unfold. I’ve blogged before about how she’s an imaginative kid and also a storyteller. She’s been narrating her life since she was less than three, and she freely appropriates characters from stories we’ve read to her or that she’s learned about on the playground. 3 and 4 are, for that matter, the ages when kids tend to have imaginary friends – I had one named Betty, and my sister had an entire family (called the “Sillees” [accent on the second syllable]); but what interests me about Squiss’s version of this is that, unlike many kids with such fantasy playmates, she always maintains a clear distinction between the things she’s pretending and the things she isn’t.
Along these same lines, she’ll often ask whether a particular figure or place in a new book exists “in this world.” For example, we just got The Seal Mother out of the library, which tells the story of a selkie and her descendents. So Squiss, understandably, wanted to know whether or not selkies exist, and I’ll admit that I didn’t have a great answer. I want the realm of faerie to be open to her for as long as possible, but there’s also a worthwhile distinction between things that are simply (simply?!) made up by identifiable individuals and things that are, well, more mythic in stature. Ultimately she’ll learn the difference, and I haven’t decided yet whether that’s a difference I want to start communicating now.
This brings me back to the fantasy-reality opposition from another angle. The one component of Squiss’s active imagination that we note with something less than pleasure (“concern” and “worry” are too strong) is her utter antipathy to anything she determines to be “scary.” Scary things, interestingly enough, populate the cinematic realm more than the literary realm for her: after a few viewings, Mulan was deemed too scary (it opens with the Huns, and they are pretty scary), and although she’d been quite excited to see it, she insisted that we turn off Ratatouille after only a few scenes (which, again, are probably the most alarming of the film). “Scary” certainly seems to have something to do with pacing, soundtrack, and general volume for her; it also seems to have something to do with perceived danger and/or emotional trauma – which makes me think that she’s imagining herself into the story in ways that are too powerful for her to make sense of, ways that she’s learned not to do with books.
(Two digressive notes here. First, one of the first books I can remember her loving was a board book Curious George and the Bunny, in which George lets a baby bunny out of the cage only to have it run away. There was a particular page where you saw George being sad because he’d lost the bunny, and Squiss didn’t care anything for the before or after at age 18 months: she just wanted that scene, over and over again. Second, it’s probably obvious from this post as well as other things I’ve written, but I’ll say it directly: Squiss watches very little television. This came about organically: G and I essentially never have the TV on except in the evenings after the girls are asleep, so it wasn’t as though we had to make a decision about whether or not we were going to “let” her watch. When she was about two, we introduced her to Blue’s Clues and have since gotten her The Electric Company, both of which are a familiar and beloved treat, at this point. She asks to watch TV very rarely, and has other ways to veg out when she needs to tune out the world. But she may be somehow less equipped than some of her agemates to process the medium.)
It’s that sense-making component that brings me to my third thought of the evening, which has to do with Squiss’s relation to the whole princess thing. (“I love princesses,” she’s taken to announcing periodically.) A year ago, as we were starting to offer the occasional homeopathic princess, we rented Mulan and watched it with her. (We also got that and Aladdin out of the library, which was a fiasco.) She enjoyed it, hiding her face in the neck of the neighboring parent during the Hun episodes, and Mulan has since been a fixture in her fantasy games. Part of this (no doubt) is the prevalence of princesses on the playground. (Although I’m pleased to observe that Gemstone has no substantial interest in princesses.) But Mulan is sometimes an alter-ego for Squiss, and at other times simply a (neutral) name for a character. She’s just reappeared after a fairly brief absence (replaced by Cinderella).
While I can’t stand the plastic nature of the princess phenomenon in its current incarnation, I can remember being an eight-year-old who loved building and re-building houses for my Barbies, not to mention all the ways in which my friends and I worked out questions about sex by having Barbie and Ken go at it. I actually bought Squiss a book of princess paper dolls the other day – partly because I’d given her free choice and didn’t want to go back on it, and partly because it seemed like a relatively innocent alternative to the small plastic figurines (etc) that many of her friends have.
And Squiss’s imagination feels to me like her safety net in this. Her willingness to think about whether or not she can enter into the world of a book may be part of what helps her pull characters out of books and make them do her narrative bidding. If she’s doing that with Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty as well as Mulan, we’re in good shape. I wonder if part of the difficulty of the “scary” parts of movies is that they’re too deeply narrative – if she gets caught up in the story and can’t control it, can’t get herself out, somehow. Who knows.
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